Archive | November, 2008

Dear Steve Martin

20 Nov

Dear Steve Martin,

First of all, in the interest of full disclosure, I should tell you that I grew up on Roxanne. Whenever I went to the video store with my friend Jane and her little brother (every Friday night from the ages of 10 to 14), we always got one of four movies. I seem to remember this being a requirement of theirs, that we pick our something we had already seen. The four that made the final, rotating cut were: Hook. Cool Runnings. The First Wives Club. And Roxanne. So you seen that it is an elite list that you made, and you very clearly have a special place in my heart, even if I didn’t know that wasn’t your real nose for a very long time.

I think it was this early faithfulness that led me to not only read, but watch Shopgirl. Though I did avoid the remake of the Pink Panther: to be fair, I was watching Inspector Clouseau before I ever met Cyrano.

At any rate, I just read Born Standing Up: A Comic’s Life and it’s so nice to meet you! I loved even your failed jokes. And I was reading the Large Print Edition, because I got it from the library, because there weren’t as many people in the line for that one, and, well, I just think you would have approved. Particularly when I asked the librarian, and she said, “Well, I like reading Large Print. I read a lot faster that way.”

I wish I could have seen you perform live, in a small dive, with all the magic tricks and props and punchlines leading nowhere. But I did just see you on The Daily Show. So I guess I can’t ask for much more than that.

Where do your jokes go when you throw them away?

Please send them to me. And if you’d like to watch Roxanne…I’m free tomorrow night.

Your fan,

MM

Dear Children

20 Nov

Dear Children,

Child Two cried because she didn’t want to learn her poesie.  The picture had ducks; the poem was in French; I don’t speak French.  Child One yelled about how easy it is to learn poesies.  Child Three cried for Mama, then Papa, then Dora.  I was somewhere down, well, ok, not on the list.

One wouldn’t eat his broccoli, Two wouldn’t eat her chicken.  Three wouldn’t touch the couscous.  Two threw her shoe at the wall, One yelled at Two, Three was very snuggly.  One wouldn’t go upstairs, Two wouldn’t sit on the stairs, Three fell down the stairs.  I counted One, Two, Three, I counted Four, Five, and Six, I counted One Minute, Two Minutes, Three Minutes, I read One Story, Two Story, Three Story, Four, I ignored Five Pinches and Six Yells and Seven I-Want-Mores.

Then we tucked in Eight Bunnies, Nine Dora Little Stars, Ten Toes, at Eleven Past Bedtime.

I only said, “I’m not going to say it again” three times, and “I’m not negotiating” twice!  I only ignored two tantrums and one refusal to go past the fifth stair.  I only mispronounced five french words, let one entire backpack (two homework assignments, thirty spelling words) go out the door with Mama, gave up on giving 3 baths, and burned one lasagna.

We’ll go another round another day.

Good night,

MM

Dear People Who Hate People Who Read Trashy Magazines

18 Nov

Dear People Who Hate People Who Read Trashy Magazines,

I understand that celebrity gossip addiction is a terrible thing. Really, I do. It causes a slowdown in grocery lines (although true addicts just pick it up and go, or have it delivered to the house. It’s those of us who can’t admit we want to stare at those glossy pictures that stall in line). Other symptoms include the inability to have a conversation without referencing television, movie, or true-life! storylines, and referring to people you have never met as intimately as if they are dear friends (Well, it’s like Gwynnie said, you really just can’t have it all…).

Worst of all, it’s often accompanied by a compulsion to shorten real, dictionary words down to single letters (omg) or nicknames (obvi), and to squish real, individual names together. This has resulted in several catastrophes for the English language. Brangelina, Bennifer, TomKat. The fact that OMG, SJP in SATC! makes complete sense to almost any woman (and most men) between the ages of 15 and 35 is just not okay. There’s also J. Lo, J. Lo. Hew, ScarJo, and LiLo. WTF.

So I feel your pain. I get it, I do. Celebrity gossip addiction (CGA or celebrigossiction) is dangerous, not only to those addicted, but to the people around them.

I’m a former English major! I’ve got a thing about words, I promise you. But when you walk around the world yelling about how much you hate people you read trashy magazines, well…

First of all, I don’t believe that you’ve never picked one up yourself.

Second, several of my very best friends read trashy magazines on a consistent (and proud) basis, and please watch how you talk about people I love.

Third, what the hell else am I supposed to read when I wait in line at the grocery store or go get my hair cut? Sometimes a girl needs to piece of trash, and 14 different fonts on a page, and some validation that celebrities drop food on themselves when they try to eat and walk. (See the Just Like Us! page from Us Weekly. Amazing, every time. They pick up their mail, and take the kids with them to the mall, and walk their dogs! It’s like they’re people?)

Finally, being pop-culture savvy is not an invaluable skill in this society. My friend K has used her gossip addiction to chitchat during interviews, bond with her boss in the elevator, and make new friends within minutes in a city where she doesn’t know anyone. Not that I’m advocating it as a professional skill, I’m just saying. Don’t become obsessed, but there’s no reason to be left out of the conversation. And quit hating on the people who can’t stop reading. That’s like hating all people who read books without pictures. Stage a gentle intervention, with an eye towards moderation, and pick out what dress you would like to wear to the Oscars when you confiscate their stack of glossies.

Love,

MM

Dear Redwood City

15 Nov

Dear Redwood City,

My friend E and I were trying to see Quantum of Solace, the new James Bond movie at your brand-spanking-new theater last night.  Turns out the 8:30 and the 9:30 were sold out, and we froze for a moment as we stood in front of the guy trying to sell us tickets and move on with his life.  Then we realized we were big kids and could probably handle staying up until 10:30.  We bought tickets and went for ice cream. 

So when we walked out of the ice cream shop, we saw a Scene like no Scene I’ve seen in a while.  Talk about skinny jeans, teal-colored tights, high-top converse, oversized necklaces and graphic-print hoodies.  There was about a cafeteria’s worth of high school kids hanging out on the sidewalk.  They were pushing each other and flirting with and ignoring each other and generally wanting each other. 

I asked E if the Scene was the Black, Hispanic, or Asian Scene—because in my high school, it was definitely a Split Scene.

I don’t know, she said, I think it’s all of them—welcome to California.

I’m scared, I intoned.  And I live in Seattle—so you know I’m used to diversity. (Plus, I just voted for Barack Obama, so….you know what that means…I can’t be racist!  It’s fullproof!)

Look, there are some cops on the corner, she said.  Do you feel better?

No!  They’re dark too!  I said.  Ahhh…let’s go back to Stanford, being surrounded by all that privilege and breathing overachievement in the air makes me feel waaaaay safer.  (Actually, I am often scared of cops.  ‘Cause men need uniforms, name tags, and guns to feel powerful… And you knew they were feeling useful ‘cause they were on a corner in Redwood City at 8:45 pm on a Friday night surrounded by teenagers trying to find excuses to touch each other.  So clearly something good was going to come of this, right?)

Three minutes later we were sitting on a bench around the corner, not really noticing a group of six or so teenage boys wearing all black who were just standing around about ten feet away.  We were probably talking about boys (hey, I said we’re big kids, not adults).  And a minute and a half later, two of the six were sitting on the bench with the two cops standing over them, their friends shooed down the block. 

Wait, what?  I asked.  What did they do?  Touch that BMW?

E sighed.  I don’t know. 

I think I’ve seen this before, I said.  No, no!  I’ve read it.  Or dreamt it.  No, I dreamt it, and then woke up and read it.  The cops are manifesting their anger about the radical internalization of racism.  Or maybe I’ve seen it before…

E laughed some more.  That’s the thing.  We have read it, and now we’re watching it.

We were quiet as we watched the two boys hand over their licenses, the cops ask them if they’re 18, the boys keep still at either end of the bench.

Why do they care if they’re eighteen?  Do you think they’d notice if I touched the BMW?  What if I danced on it? 

E laughed.  Well, I’m glad you think I’m funny, I said.  I can’t believe we’re watching this, she said.  I don’t think it’s funny, she said, just really uncomfortable that we’re actually watching this happen.  Maybe it’s cigarettes.

Some of the friends had wandered back and stood by our bench.  One of the cops shined a flashlight on a license, and then they just took up positions behind the boys and waited, hands on radios.

E’s eyebrows dove downward.  I don’t think it’s even illegal to smoke at eighteen, just to purchase, she said.

Shh, I said, leaning and trying to hear the group of friends.  He didn’t even want a smoke, one of the friends said.  He just wanted to try it.  Stupid.  Yep, I said, cigarettes.

The cops tapped one of the boys on the shoulder and just like that, the kid was gone.  Nowhere to be seen.  The other one slowly stood up and tossed a box in a nearby trashcan.  A second and a half later, he fished it out at the cops’ instruction and tapped the cigarettes out, dropped them individually back in the trash.  He shuffled toward us and the whole group near our bench disappeared.  The cops went back to their corner. 

Two middle-aged white ladies walked up to the BMW.  Some kids touched your car, I muttered.  But don’t worry, the cops took care of it. 

E lost it.  We white liberal 20somethings do appreciate making fun of our own awareness.  (It’s our paralysis that makes us fall silent and stay that way.) 

We threw our ice cream cups in after the cigarettes.  Forty-five minutes later, we watched a group of late 20somethings jostle for seats in the crowded theater.  The girls were in dresses, the men in tuxes.  What is this, Harry Potter? I thought. 

One very handsome Black man in a tux yelled at his friend, we just elected a Black man president, you can save me a seat in a movie theater! 

It didn’t happen.

Ten minutes later, after shuffling around a lot, somehow the group now had six people instead of two without seats.

Luckily, the theater security guards were on hand and, by getting involved and asking everybody a lot of questions about what the problem was, the movie only started five minutes late. 

So, in conclusion, Redwood City, I just want to thank you for my evening out.  And the overwhelming presence of your authority figures.  I want to thank them for keeping things under control.  Those badges really made me feel safe. 

It’s the seventeen-year old boys trying to look like they weren’t looking at the girls in teal-colored tights that made me nervous.  And the cigarettes!  Wow, those things are dangerous.  Good looking out. 

Cheers,

MM

Dear People with Weak Handshakes

9 Nov

Dear People with Weak Handshakes,

Ew.  This isn’t a cafeteria, and your hand is not jello.  Also, you are not the pope and I am not going to kiss your ring.  Keep it parallel to mine and perpendicular to the ground.

Thanks.  That would be great.

MM

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